Stress starts in the mind when you perceive a situation to be threatening. However, your mind is unable to differentiate between what is considered real and what is imagined. What does this mean? Let me illustrate by sharing a story.
I have a client who is starting his own business. He is working diligently to ‘land that first sale’. What is he focusing on? His primary question is, “what will happen if I don’t sell 100 of these things next month?” He has already worked it out. If he doesn’t sell 100 of those things each month, he will be broke by Christmas. He has got the spreadsheet to prove it. So as he is figuring this out, he is focusing on that outcome. “If I sell none of these things, I will be broke by Christmas.” This is scary, so there is a lot of emotion around this imagined outcome. Yep, it’s an imagined outcome because it hasn’t happened. The more he imagines it, the more scared he feels and the more real it seems. The greater the emotional intensity, the more he relates to this imagined outcome. If he doesn’t ‘nip it in the bud’, his behaviour will change and he will start to act as if he was broke. You think, you feel, you act.
Guess how his business will respond to that new focus.What’s going on inside? He is suffering from financial stress. Not because his finances are in disarray but because he is already thinking and feeling how he will feel to be broke at Christmas. The mind does not differentiate between what is ‘real’ and what is ‘imagined’. The stress response has kicked off and he is starting to feel the effects.Ok, so here’s the good news. Just as imagining the worst can make you feel stressed, you can also use the power of your imagination to create a compelling future. By choosing the outcome you want, emotionally associating with that outcome, your subconscious will work with you to create that outcome. You think, you feel, you act.
Become aware of your primary question and use your imagination to create your compelling future.
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